God's Glory Church

“Go in peace! And what we both swore in the Lord’s Name… let it be forever.” — 1 Samuel 20:42

In the chapel of Christ’s College, Cambridge, there is a monument dedicated to two seventeenth-century doctors, John Finch and Thomas Baines. Known as “inseparable friends”, Finch and Baines collaborated on medical research and went on diplomatic trips together. When Baines died in 1680, Finch mourned their “unbreakable marriage of souls” of thirty-six years. It was a friendship based on love, loyalty and devotion.

David and Jonathan had the same close friendship. They shared a deep mutual affection (1 Sam. 20:41), and even made a vow of loyalty to each other (vv. 8-17, 42). Their friendship was marked by total loyalty (1 Sam. 19:1-2; 20:13). Jonathan even sacrificed his right to the throne so that David could become king (1 Sam. 20:30-31; see 1 Sam. 23:15-18). When Jonathan died, David lamented that Jonathan’s love for him was “more luxurious… than the love of a woman” (2 Sam. 1:26).

We may be uncomfortable comparing friendship to marriage today, but friendships like those of Finch and Baines, David and Jonathan, can help our friendships reach greater depth. Jesus invited His friends to cling to Him (John 13:23-25), and the affection, loyalty and devotion He shows us can become the basis of the deep friendship we build together.

How do you think faith in Christ can deepen friendships? How can you show more affection, loyalty, and devotion to your friends?

Dear Jesus, please help me to build real friendships.

Author: Sheridan Voysey